I have a scat fetish

Added: Ricahrd Maynes - Date: 25.07.2021 03:52 - Views: 43254 - Clicks: 9415

How does one get rid of their scat fetish? It's embarrassing, shameful and disgusting when I think about it. How on earth do I get rid of it? I want it to be so that it doesn't turn me on any more. ly, I've taken unflushed turds out of public toilets home, and played with them there. I've even put it in my mouth, but I spat it out again. After I did that I felt especially shameful.

When I think about it normally, I hate it and want to stop thinking about it and doing anything about it. But, when I think about it in a sexual manner it turns me on and my thoughts of disgust seem to disappear temporarily. Please help. You should talk to a psychiatrist. This has nothing to do with you being gay. And yes you should please see a psychiatrist. Best wishes to you.

Or, maybe you should embrace it. Have you heard of FetLife? You will find yourself at home among many. I don't think this is something to be ashamed of per se, but as far as eating feces, there's a ton of nasty bacteria and other things in it that you don't want to go in your body.

I guess my point is that if there's one reason to be concerned here, it's the health angle. Consider a psychologist rather than a psychiatrist, who'll primarily prescribe drugs. The problem seems more related to uncontrollable 'acting out' which may be a of issues unrelated to the specific fetish. For example, it may be that you like it because it bothers you on some level, and there's a split occurring between your conscious ego and unconscious desires, which suggests repression.

Further 'suppressing' it through drugs only fixes the issue on the most superficial way, and with no long-term guarantees. Anyway, the more you berate yourself ironically , the more likely is it that you'll do it again. I won't flippantly suggest you 'get over it' or 'accept yourself', but do consider that shame is apparently part of a cycle for you, and may even act as a trigger long-term.

Reframe your ideal: instead of 'getting rid of it', consider simply gaining control over your behavior as a goal. It is a worthwhile goal regardless. There's nothing overwhelming about a fetish you can choose to indulge in, how to indulge in, and so on. Feeling uncontrolled urges is disquieting, and I suggest that's what you focus on changing through therapy.

Think of a trusted very trusted friend, and confide in that person. Hopefully this friend will not also have a scat fetish. Once you tell someone else, the fetish will no longer exist only in your mind and individual experience, but will be also externalized. The shame you're feeling will also be, in a sense, externalized. With any luck, your friend's reaction will help you re-frame how you perceive your fetish, and you can use that new frame of reference to create distance between your past behavior and your aspirations to "cure" yourself. If you can't think of anyone you'd be comfortable confessing this to, by all means, see a therapist.

Good luck. I agree that you should talk to a therapist about this, but not be ashamed. I don't think sexual desires, that don't harm anyone, are any reason for shame. However, this could harm YOU, so there is cause for concern. You know this, but this could make you very, very ill. But hygenic stuff. I think this is one of those things the internet is great for. See if you can find similar-minded fetishists to talk to online about how they deal with it. I guarantee almost every one of them when through the same thing you are going through, and have had varying degrees of success in managing it.

Surely there are some practical health considerations you must address before anything else--pee is sterile, but shit contains all kinds of disease-causing bugs, so before you even address the shame, educate yourself about how to satisfy your urge safely. Coli can kill you, and clostridium can ruin your life. You don't want that. A therapist who specializes in sexual issues is also a good idea. Or Dan Savage? As for getting it out of you? I don't know if you can. I think kinks can wax and wane, though, so maybe take the opportunity of a low-urge period of time to explore some other kind of kink.

You might not be able to "turn off" your shit fetish, but you'll have more tools in your tool box if you need some release. I am not a sex therapist, just throwing an idea out there. Can't hurt, might help. Be safe first. The problem with talking to an online community of fetishists is that they will - almost by definition - have only a little advice about how to deal with it.

Yes, they may have sympathetic perspectives on shame, embarrassment, and wanting to get rid of that trigger, but anyone who found a technique that "got rid of it" for them, if such a thing exists, is very unlikely to be still spending time on scat fetish boards. Still, I can't suggest a good alternative plan. I guess I'm just saying that if the community response is "embrace it!! Don't confide in any friend. There are a million negative consequences that will almost certainly flow from that. Do consult a therapist for a recommendation for someone who can handle work on fetish issues.

Your neighborhood therapist probably isn't the person, but she should be able to recommend someone. Absolutely do not confide in any of your friends. I say this not because you should be ashamed of your fetish, but because YOU are currently ashamed of your fetish, and a psychologist or therapist will be a much better person to talk to if you are truly determined to stop having this fetish, period.

Seek out someone that's sex-positive -- meaning a therapist that views sex and all things sexual as a positive, healthy thing, and that way their goal can be to help you overcome your feelings of shame so you can live a positive, healthy, sexy life. BTW, this has nothing to do with you being gay. Absolutely nothing. The rest of the column is largely about Dan defending his right to think scat-eating is gross, so it might not be something you want to check out right now.

However, his general notion regarding fetishes which I think is helpful is this: if it turns your crank it turns your crank, learn to love it and find sensible, safe ways to explore it. Attempting to repress your kink will only lead you towards frustration. Therapy can help - find a good sex-positive therapist. Definitely check out fetlife might be a good place to start your search for a sex-positive therapist. If you are truly that unhappy with your fetish and cannot find a way to live at peace with it, there are medications that can reduce your libido and therefore your interest in your fetish.

I'm not necessarily recommending this but it might give you some peace of mind just to know that's an option. I read a fantastic book a while back flower on the cover, I think the writer was an NYT columnist that explored several case studies of fetishists - ranging from a guy who was into feet and so ashamed he could not admit it to his wife, to a woman who practiced some UNsafe, UNsane sadism unabashedly and openly. If I can remember the title I'll post it, but it might give you some perspective. Here it is! The Other Side of Desire.

I am kinky. A lot of my social circle is kinky. And while your thing is not my thing I feel like I have had similar experiences with shame and a desire to no longer be turned on by what turns me on. In fact, some of those kinky friends are also well versed in that. Don't fight it.

Understand the health risks and do what you can to limit them, but you are turned on by what turns you on. Your desire may change over time as they do for everyone, but this is part of your life. I would not confide in a friend. I would not bother reading Dan Savage who is so vocal about his revulsion I think he has eaten his weight in feces. Yeah, Dan has good facts about health risks and such, but it is framed in such a way I don't think it would be beneficial for you to read it. I would talk with people who are into the same thing.

I don't think FetLife is quite the place to do that. From my extensive browsing it seems to be a mostly hetero place and I think it would be most beneficial to talk to someone like you that you potentially will want to play with. Recon is a great place to find kinky gay men. Here is the thing though. A guy who likes to get spanked can get along pretty well with most sexual or romantic partners.

But scat is a much higher bar to cross. Keep that in mind that there is a community scat within a community kink within a community gay. There will not be many who share your interests around you. But they are out there. In the mean time there is a lot of porn out there made just for you. So much that I stumble upon it when looking for other kink porn. Think positive. Mitigate risks.

And know that you are pretty normal in the grand scheme of things. Please don't think of your fetish as shameful. It isn't shameful at all. That said, the way you describe enacting of your fetish so far is likely to cause harm. There is a whole community out there of people who have looked into how to minimize risk.

What is important with our alimentary real estate is the same as it is with any other kind; location, location, location. Escherichia coli for example, depending on the strain and concentration, is great to have in your large lower intestine helps keep the it anoxic, sucking out all of the oxygen, so that other good bacteria won't be hurt by it but not so great to have growing in your small upper intestine where it will have access to sugars it ferments them into really terrible products including stupid amounts of CO2.

When you transport large amounts of bacteria from the ass to the mouth end of your digestive system you are likely to cause issues. The excited and sated yet totally guilty look on the face of a great dane who was just let into a chicken coop will tell you everything you need to know about how good and useful pets can also be bad and a pain in the ass.

I had a friend I know, I know who was a professional dominatrix at a dungeon, and if there was one thing she learned, it was that fetishes can never be entirely shaken off. You can learn to manage your fetish. You can play it safe, as others have suggested. You can try substitutions and fantasy role play. But can you get rid of it? You'd better just accept it. Therapy may help, but again, fetishes run deep, and don't tend to go away entirely.

Ever, really.

I have a scat fetish

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